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Post by karcher on Jun 18, 2008 17:01:09 GMT
Deri is so sad after losing his soulmate Cindy (pictures in rainbow bridge). I'm so worried about him. He's eating, he looks fine, untill you look at his eyes. He's soooooo sad. He won't leave the yard, he screams the minute you try and take him out there. He stood by her grave and I broke my heart. He's just so lost. He has his buddy with him, monty (21) but what can I do to cheer him up??
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Post by mrogers on Jun 18, 2008 17:18:15 GMT
get him back fit and ready for hunting lol!!!
No seriously, maybe taking him for a walk somewhere new might lift his spirits a bit
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Post by pezmurph on Jun 18, 2008 17:18:37 GMT
give him a huge hug from me karen xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by poppy on Jun 18, 2008 18:00:40 GMT
When I lost a very old lady who had a companion like Deri, I let her watch Tiffany be put to sleep, I know it sounds weird, but I think it saved my sanity as they were as close as your 2. They were in seperate stables that had a cut out window, so Bessy was aware all night that Tiffany was not going to get up again. I know it is too late now to let Deri see his beloved companion, but, is he close to anything else? or could you possibly loan or go to market and get a small , maybe old pony that he can bond with? It is a terribly difficult situation, and you are doing all you can to comfort him, all he knows is that his friend has suddenly gone and he does not understand why, it has upset him and being an old person , they are very easily upset! Time , and patience I suppose until he accepts, its very sad and I feel for both of you.
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Post by karcher on Jun 18, 2008 18:20:16 GMT
Deri was with her when she was put to sleep and stayed with her for half an hour. I was told to do this by my vet. He seemed ok untill I tried to turn him out today, yesterday he just wandered around the yard with monty, but now, NO WAY will he leave the yard! I did consider riding him but that might just finish him off! (actually I'm not brave enough anymore!!!) I'm off to check him again now. He's eating like the proverbial but, oh i don't know, he's not right! Does this make sense???
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Post by poppy on Jun 18, 2008 21:04:16 GMT
I know what you mean, as you know him so well, you just know he is not right. Great he is eating tho. When he is ready to leave the yard , he will, he is grieving I suppose, and you will just have to try him every day to see if he will leave the yard. Poor you, what a worry, I am really sorry.
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Post by smokey on Jun 18, 2008 22:28:13 GMT
poor boy hope he will be ok. give him a hug from me.
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Post by mrogers on Jun 19, 2008 7:25:55 GMT
After our conversation last night, I think your idea of bringing him home would be the best. Hes diverted his attention from Cindy to you. At least at home he would see you around the yard, and you never know he might hook up with rosie?. Keep in touch. Let me know hows hes doing. Mo x
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Post by suemoore on Jun 19, 2008 10:49:59 GMT
We had this when our mare died, but we only had the 2 at that time, my Arab went into a type of depression, he ate and did all the " normal " things but he had lost his sparkle, it was so upsetting to see him whicker constantly for her and even with a mouth full of hay, so we got him a new girlfriend Annie, she came from HAPPA, she had been starved and nearly beaten to death, they bonded at once, it really was instant, and they have been fine since. But it is true he will fixate on you my Arab did, I almost lived down there with him until we got Annie, then he didnt want to know me, but I understood!! good luck with yours
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Post by equinim on Jun 19, 2008 13:55:03 GMT
the best advice is to give them time"just like us they need to chill out" it may help to move to a different yard and try and get them to accept a new companion . sometimes it takes a totally different routine to get them motivated again. good luck
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Post by karcher on Jun 19, 2008 14:39:37 GMT
I am lucky enough to own 2 yards, the small ponies are at home and the biggies have our other yard, more grazing (16 acres). The stables at home are too small. Deri lives in an 18x22ft stable and access to all 16 acres! I know they're spoilt. We will have new stables built by the winter at home so he will come here. I'm probably being silly,but, I want him to go and graze, I understand he's sad, we all are, but I want him in the field in the day to have some grass. I've tried locking him out today, he threatend to jump the gate! He got his way and I let him in again. Perhaps I want too much too soon. Keep you all updated.xx
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Post by masters on Jun 19, 2008 15:23:21 GMT
How sad to hear all this, poor Deri. I suppose they have to go through the grieving process their own way as we would but heart breaking for you to watch. Hope it all works out OK for you all.
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Post by suneagle on Jun 21, 2008 12:41:15 GMT
when i 1st got freddie he got quite attached to a tbxwb gelding called josh, rose out together, and were best of buddies... untill josh went loopy and escaped from feild and got hit by a car, was put down right infront of freddie.
after that freddie wouldnt play in the feild as he was on his own, so i was his feild friend, i would play and do join up with with, now everyone says i have such a bond with freddie which is amazing to see us running around together. but this really did help freddie get over his sadness as he had something else to look forward too, seeing you!.
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Post by karcher on Jun 22, 2008 7:47:54 GMT
He is so attached it's getting difficult as he tried to climb in my jeep last night! I was hoping he'd be happy having Monty with him, he's had monty in his group (they used to be like the three amigo's!) for 3yrs and he hunted with monty for 15 seasons. He seems to like him but cinders was his soulmate. Monty tried to groom him yesterday and Deri stamped his feet and bit him! His coat has dulled aswell, I hope he's not going to give up, he's lasted longer than 2 husbands so that tells you what I feel about him!
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Post by medwinatswpa on Jun 22, 2008 9:43:35 GMT
I know this is not horses but we have always had cats around the yard and had got a trio of kittens from the Cats Protection League some 15 yrs ago. Within 6 months the bolder one moved over to the nursey over the road and stayed with them, but Poppy and Fred had been with us ever since. Fred lost the sight of one eye and was dependent on Poppy and followed her everywhere and whilst Poppy would never let me catch her Fred would and we would enjoy quiet moments, away from other humans, wild and domesticated briefly joined in harmony.
Sadly Fred passed away in his sleep aged about 16, and the girls came home worried about Poppy who did not leave his side all day, even when we went close. She ate nothing and passed away the following night - re-united with her beloved partner Fred.
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